When things are tough, their tough.
Our problems can come to dominate our view of the world, our relationships and sense of self. They touch everything and anything. The relating and associative capabilities of the mind knows no bounds.
And yet, change is possible. Maybe not overnight. Nor instantly. But still possible. Subtly.
It may start by simply noticing those briefest of moments when the problem isn’t as much of a problem. Those exceptions to the problem. Times when the problem would normally be present but isn’t, or isn’t as dominant.
Do you notice these instances? Do they register in your darting mind as contrary to the problems dominance? What did you do to that helped this moment come around? What differences, however brief or limited, did this moment make? Who else may have noticed these differences? What might the existence of such moments suggest about your problem? About you?
So, careful now. Change is afoot. Subtly.
““Where you stand determines what you see and what you do not see; it determines also the angle you see it from; a change in where you stand changes everything.” – Steve de Shazer